Listening to Families Videos

Lara Beskeen Stop services explains the services that Stop provides for children ages 12 to 18. Joel Agnew Stop services confirms the sources of referrals to Stop.

Joel Agnew Stop services notes that Stop provides free services. He talks about the therapeutic package that Stop provides and the ways that Stop engages.

Lara Beskeen Stop services talks about the importance of positive relationships for adolescents. She discusses the work that Stop services focussing on - what’s safe, what’s healthy, how to do relationships really well

Lara Beskeen Stop services notes that an assessment takes up to 10 weeks. Interventions may be short term or could be over a year.

Lara Beskeen Stop services notes that the Stop website breaks down what is expected behaviour at different ages. Joel Agnew Stop services talks about the multiple changes that an adolescent goes through and the exploration that is linked to this.

Lara Beskeen Stop services notes that the age the young people are seeing or accessing pornography has lowered – 10 to 12 yrs old. She notes that there has always been pornography, what’s changed is the ease of access and the content. Important that parents are aware of this.

Joel Agnew Stop services talks about a new software package “Take it down”. Lara Beskeen Stop services notes the importance of parents staying calm when adolescents raise issues in relation to porn and the importance of working with their adolescent to resolve these.

Joel Agnew and Lara Beskeen Stop services share a range of resources that are available for families – these are linked to the video clips in the series

Betty Gallagher Team Leader Children’s services and Lyn Jansen Prevention Education Lead from Stop Services explain that there are a number of guidelines in relation to what is age expected. Lyn notes a number of factors that would raise concern. Betty talks about context and the level of intrusion that occurs.

Betty Gallagher Team Leader Children’s services and Lyn Jansen Prevention Education Lead both from Stop Services talk about the way that the team work with children with disabilities. Betty notes the use of play when she interacts with the children. Lyn talks about the importance of having safe adults in their lives.

Betty Gallagher Team Leader Children’s services and Lyn Jansen Prevention Education Lead both from Stop Services note the importance of starting early. Lyn suggests that the conversation starts with a child when they are a baby. They note there is a wide variation in the way that families approach this – there is no right or wrong. Betty confirms that earlier is better.

Betty Gallagher Team Leader Children’s services and Lyn Jansen Prevention Education Lead both from Stop Services note that language is important. Lyn explains that some activity may be age expected but not appropriate. She refers to a booklet on the Stop website. Betty also talks about age expected and the importance of context.

Betty Gallagher Team Leader Children’s services and Lyn Jansen Prevention Education Lead both from Stop Services note the importance of not making assumptions. They talk about slowing down and getting the context. They also note the importance of having a safe space to have discussions.

Resources

Websites

A community free from sexual harm | Stop

https://www.stop.org.nz/

NSPCC – The UK Children’s Charity

https://www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe/support-for-parents/pants-underwear-rule/

Books:

My Body my Taonga - Rosalind Harrison & Susan Simpson

Good Pictures Bad Pictures (jr) - Kristen A. Jenson